Ok that was mean.
I still get bitter, especially when I see things like "A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other." Because that's what we did, and we both did it, and it pisses me off to think of it.
We gave up. You gave up hoping that I would get my act together. I gave up because you were miserable and I'd rather not have you in my life than know I'm causing that misery.
If we'd tried, talked, we could have made it. We could have been happy.
Then again I still would have been downsized, so maybe it doesn't matter in the end. But it feels like it would've.